Are bad habits dimming your light?

I just finished another month of teaching and training at Rancho la Puerta in Tecate Mexico.  It is a true honor to be able to do what I love at the world’s oldest and most popular fitness and wellness spas. 

I am often asked what it is like to live and work at a spa. While the majority of my days involve leading hikes, personal training, and teaching 2-5 fitness/yoga classes, I also take advantage of every moment and soak up as much knowledge from other instructors and the guest speakers that come in every week.

A big theme of Ranch life is “mindfulness” and living in a cell-phone free environment has been a true gift. It has forced me to come face to face with a bad habit. A habit that I absolutely KNOW dims my light. I have a confession to make. 

I multi-task 


Why just eat, when I can eat and check my emails. Why just fold laundry, when I can fold and listen to a Ted Talk, and of course the thought of going for a run without my music started to freak me out! I realized that except for my daily mediation, my brain was always performing (not very well) double time. Just like our physical bodies cannot perform at their highest level when constantly taxed, your mind also needs a break. 

“To be everywhere is to be nowhere” – Seneca 

Now, I am not saying you shouldn’t watch the news while cooking dinner, or listen to a podcast during your morning commute. But, for me I know that reading, watching, and/or listening to my phone or iPad keeps me from being present and is a way that I distract myself from feeling deeply and facing life. 

Most of us have some form of personal coping habit that we use to hide from life. For some people it is having 1 or 2 glasses of wine every night, for others it is binge-watching Netflix. Even being endlessly productive or being an excessive caregiver can be a way of hiding from unresolved issues, unhealed wounds or challenging conversations. 

We are here on this planet – at this time – TO SHINE! 

Are there any activities or habits that are dimming your light? 

What might you need to take away OR what can you ADD into your life to feel more whole, more authentically you? 

I am big on baby steps, so I now eat my dinners with no iPad, no phone and no book. If I am eating salad, I am one with my salad :) I even started going for runs and hikes without my music, and I always return with a sense of lightness and peace of mind. 

I hope this little exercise on mindfulness helps you shine a little brighter!

Mindfulness lessons from a recovering asana junkie (Part 2): Strength in stepping back and being a student

Strength is defined as: “the state or quality of being physically or mentally strong. 2. the ability to withstand or exert great force, stress, or pressure. 3. something that is regarded as being beneficial or a source of power.”

The idea of strength has changed for me over the years (see Part 1- Inner stillness is the key to outer strength). Power can come in the form of compassion, patience, and even holding back. There is also power in acknowledging that you have much to learn and do not have all of the answers.

This past June I attended a yoga teacher training down in Sayulita, Mexico. It was amazing the amount of people who said – “Don’t you already teach yoga?” Yes, yes I do. I have taken workshops and trainings in various styles including Anusara, Baptiste, Rocket, and Jivamukti yoga and although I have practiced yoga for 14 years now, I was not drawn to teach until just a few years ago. I find the question so interesting because many assume that you are done learning after becoming “certified” for yoga, or fitness training for that matter. Where as I believe that the “certification” is only the beginning.

Henry Ford said, “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.”

The greatest teachers I know are the one’s who are also great students. There is a vulnerability in both roles and when you allow yourself to be vulnerable you also allow opportunities to grow and gain strength.

I am currently teaching at Rancho la Puerta down in Tecate, Mexico, one of the oldest fitness and wellness spas – founded in 1940! They recently won “best fitness program” by Travel and Leisure. I am honored to be spending my summer teaching and training here but what is most exciting for me it that I am able to take classes from these world class instructors and presenters. Pinch me. I literally learn new teaching methodologies or cutting edge wellness and mindset practices every single day!

Another huge bonus to taking classes or attending trainings is the knowledge I gain from fellow students. Our minds work in different (but equally cool) ways and you can learn a lot from how other people process information and problem-solve. To be honest, some of my ‘best’ lessons have come from what I see in myself while in a group setting.

“The more you learn, the less you know.”

Life is short and I feel like a little sponge soaking up as much as I can with my limited time on this planet. I admit to being a little obsessed with learning new ways to move my body, and even more obsessed with processing what I learn to share with my students and clients. It is not always a huge success and I definitely stumble quite a bit. But here’s the thing…

“Knowledge comes from learning. Wisdom comes from living.”

You can read all the books, or attend 100’s of classes but it is what you apply that makes the difference. Hmmm.. kind of sounds a lot like taking action. :) Be courageous enough to take action – even if you think you can’t, and especially if it is not perfect.

True wisdom comes from your experience while traveling the road of life.

Be a lifelong learner. Be vulnerable. Be strong.

5 Tips To Stay Healthy And Balanced As A Busy Entrepreneur

My friend, Tamara Jacobi AKA “Jungle Girl” is the founder of Tailwind Jungle Lodge, an eco-retreat center here in San Pancho, Mexico. This jungle lodge idea was sparked from a college course, which she in turn made into a reality by literally building it, rock by rock, from the ground up. She is currently writing a book about her story, “Wild Entrepreneurship: A Real Life Jungle Book” – an inspiring look at entrepreneurs who are living their life by design and a little off the beaten path. I was honored to share with her my tips for staying healthy and balanced as a busy entrepreneur:
1. You are not what you eat, you are what you absorb!

We all know to eat organic whole foods – fruits and vegetables, meats and whole grains, but if you are not absorbing all the nutrients, your health (mental, physical, sleep, etc) can suffer. I highly recommend having a food sensitivity test, or doing an elimination diet to really get clear on the proper foods that are right for you.

2. When it comes to your workouts, always have a plan B.

There are going to be times a kid is sick or your meeting runs late, and you cannot make your workout. Have an exercise video, a regular run, a 2nd exercise class time, or written workout plan that you can do at home. No excuses.

3. Plan fun into every day.

Fun isn’t just for weekends. For me, exercise IS fun so I kill two birds with one stone. My friends and I have Taco Tuesday Fight Night – We box, we eat tacos, and then watch a movie. You may not have 4 hours to commit to fun, but try to plan at least 10 minutes (out of 1,440!) of joy into your day. Because if you are not feeling joy, then what if the point?

4. Breathe in gratitude.

I take a few minutes everyday to FEEL grateful. Sometimes it is during my morning meditation, or when I walk my dogs. I take deep breathes and thank the universe for x,y,z. It always makes my not-so-good days better and my good days – AMAZING!

5. Breathe some more.

I am big on breathing. You can use your breath to calm your mind in the middle of a crazy day (or yoga class), or you can use your breath to bring power and energy to your body. 20 years ago, my boyfriend at the time was heavy into martial arts and yoga. He taught me a breathing pattern, that I believe is similar to Apnea breathing. It is something I practice almost nightly while I am in bed, before I fall asleep. It is a 1-4-2 breath count. Meaning, breathe in for 1 count, hold for 4 counts, breathe out for 2 counts. I typically breathe in for 7, hold for 28, and breathe out for 14. Long exhalations, are scientifically proven to calm your nervous system. I also breathe to power myself up. My close friends make fun of me because before I do anything “big” like point my bike down a steep trail, or speak in public, I always give it a big (loud), quick exhale before I begin.

Simple right? It really can be this easy to stay healthy during busy times. These are just 5 out of 10 tips I shared with Tamara. You’ll have to wait for her book to see the rest!

Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe – 3 ways to raise your vibration TODAY!

We have all heard the expression, “Your vibe attracts your tribe.” But did you know that is physiologically true? At a basic level we are all energy, and energy has power, positive and negative. LIKE literally attracts LIKE. Your vibration sets off a chain reaction that will attract people and situations that match your energy. If you are a genuinely positive individual, your energy or vibration will attract other genuinely positive individuals. But if you are just “trying” to be positive and not truly embodying the emotion, your energy or vibration will attract others vibrating at a similar frequency. Here are 3 ways you can go from “trying” to actually (and authentically) raising your vibe!

IMG_18781. Wake Up On Purpose:

How often do you wake up on purpose? Not just to make breakfast, dress the kids, or check your inbox – but to wake up with a purpose! How do you want to FEEL? Take a moment after waking and sit, breathe, and think of 3 things that make you happy. I bet you will actually start to smile, and that smile begins to raise your vibration – the energy you emit out to the world. Starting your day with the intent of being happy or joyful will set in motion the energy to attract joyful people and joyful experiences. I like to think about my Sadie Bug –>

Even when someone throws a wrench in your plan, or a bowl of cereal on your clothes, or doesn’t get your coffee order right – can you see the humor in the situation, or find anything positive? Or do you always go right into doom and gloom mode? When you look for the positive in everyday situations you are also raising your vibration…

2. Flex Your Optimism Muscle:

Truly. It is a practice. You may not be able to control everything in your life, but do get to CHOOSE how you react to things and in turn how you see your world.

I often hear people automatically default to negativity. Whether it be at the grocery store – “I always get the slow line!.” Driving to work – “Why doesn’t anyone know how to drive!” And even at the gym – “I can’t believe someone took ‘my’ treadmill!”

I am a genuinely positive person, but of course there have been times in my life when I wasn’t always happy on the inside and that reflected in my reactions to things. After my divorce, I made a conscious effort to look for the good in every situation. I flexed my positivity muscle. If I had a negative thought, I would immediately tell myself a different story. I had to do that for quite some time until it wasn’t a conscious decision any longer. Some mindset “gurus” tell people to say “Cancel-Cancel” after a negative word or thought – whatever works for you.

The point is to become conscious to your negativity. Become aware of that inner voice (or outer voice) that spews unhappy comments towards yourself or others.

Yes, sometimes there are crappy things that WILL happen to all of us, but you always have a choice of how you will react and for HOW LONG you are going to dwell in crap-land.

This past October, I missed my flight down to Mexico where I spend my winters. It had just started snowing in Park City that morning and I was excited to escape for the season, but I also had a ton of work to do before my first retreat guests arrived. Bummer. I believe everything happens for a reason, so I was racking my brain trying to see the good in that situation. We drove back to Park City from the airport and I immediately went to the boxing gym and had one last workout with my favorite trainer. Ok, that was pretty good… and I stayed extra long because I didn’t want to walk out in the snow :) The next day I landed in Puerto Vallarta and saw my good friend, Steve, at the airport. He invited me to his house for dinner that evening. It was magical, and had I made my flight the day before I definitely would not have had that experience. I told Steve that he was the reason I missed my flight!

Was it really? I will never know, but why not? It may sound a little naive to walk around with rose-colored glasses on, but I sure prefer roses to crap.

IMG_65063) Go On A Complaining Diet:
I got this one from, Tracy Di Nunzio, the founder of She was born with spina bifida, which is a congenital birth defect where your vertebrae do not form around your spinal cord. She began to paint during her recovery from surgeries and had to crawl around the floor (to paint) because she could not stand upright. She became bitter and began complaining until she read some words by Stephen Hawking.

He said, ‘When you complain, nobody wants to help you.’ So simple and so true.


“If you spend your time focusing on the things that are wrong, then that is what you express and project to people you know. You don’t become a source of growth for people, you become a source of destruction for people. That draws more destructiveness.”

Tracy also put herself on a complaining diet – She would not let herself complain about any situation, and also would not let herself think anything negative about it!

Love that!

Being an optimistic person has many benefits. Not only does positive energy have a lightness to it, but you will feel physically uplifted and mentally calm. And really when was the last time you wanted to hang out with a grouch? People are naturally attracted to positive people, so begin your day with a smile, flex your optimism muscle, and start that complaining diet because…



Scar – A Love Story

Scars usually are the result of a good story – not “good” as in smiley-face emoji’s and fairy tales, but good in the sense of having overcome a fear or a seemingly impossible challenge by facing some physical, mental or emotional demon. Good as in The Heroes Journey.

Each scar that is etched on my body is a permanent reminder of a lesson, and a moment in time. From a fearless first-grader trying to fly, to the countless crashes on my mountain bike, to the most noticeable and most life changing scar–my surgery to remove a Pancreatic tumor. This physical scar is what people notice, but it is the emotional scars that have left a larger mark on my life.


As they rolled me into surgery the doctor said with a smile, I’ll be giving you the “Mercedes Benz Cut.” I imagined the little silver hood adornment atop those sleek cars. Cute. What I got was a giant Peace Sign. Ironic, because up until that moment, I had never felt peace when it came to my stomach–shivering at the thought of being touched, and taking every opportunity to pull a shirt down. Ironic also that my name, Shanti, is Hindi for “Peace.”

My life before surgery, what I now call my “past life,” was a dream. And I do not mean fuzzy memories. I mean, at a very young age I already felt like I was living my dream. I started teaching Taebo (kickboxing aerobics) up in the Bay Area right out of college. Soon after, I was living the fantasy-trainer life, personal training and jetting off to exotic locales with my clients all over the country and also abroad. I taught fitness classes at two major motion film studios in the Bay Area AND was a fitness model in my spare time.

While my outside looked amazing, my inside was a disgusting mess full of low self-esteem and a self-worth-ometer set at zero. I punished my body overtraining for mountain bike races, Muay Thai (kickboxing) and trail running. Even yoga was a platform for self-abuse, beating myself up if I did not perform double chaturangas throughout every vinyasa yoga class. I now realize that I pushed my body to extremes to quiet my inner torment.

And the punishment did not stop at my physical endeavors.


This photo was taken about 5 months before my surgery. Two days before the shoot, I stopped eating anything solid. It was 48 hours of protein shakes and green juices while I logging extra miles running and cycling. I was incredibly self-conscious about every inch of my body, and mostly about my mid-section. I was the product of the “super-model era”, when waifs were the IT-girls and to look like a pre-pubescent boy was a thing of beauty. Every modeling job was a chance to say, “Hey – you ARE pretty, you ARE good enough.” But like fake friends, fake feelings never last. They were temporary band-aids to hide my wounded sense of self.

It’s clear to me now that I did not have a clue who I was, let alone love myself. At 26, clinging to the attention of a very fun and charismatic man, I got married. He would be the last in a string of long-term co-dependent relationships. The old Shanti needed to be with men that felt like they had to “save me.” The price of their love was high, and I paid with my need to please and my need to feel “not good enough.”

My surgery saved my life.

Quite literally, yes, but my emotional rescue was even more profound.

A couple days after surgery, while laying in ICU, I wrote in my journal:
Dear Diary: “I guess this is what people mean by getting a second chance. I am one of the lucky ones… to have all of my anger, frustration, fear and pain, physically removed from my body. I am an emotional clean slate. I am so grateful for this chance to truly start living my life.”

I can’t explain why I had such a clear sense of knowing, but I have never been so sure of anything in my life. Is this what all people experience when faced with their own mortality? My tumor was a self-inflicted wound created by holding in 30 years of emotional pain. Not feeling understood by my family as a child, to feeling tormented by classmates, and hating myself for never fitting in or fitting the mold of how a girl/young lady/woman was supposed to behave.

At first I was shocked by the size of my scar. I bought all the “scar creams” and cover-ups, and imagined I would continue to hide my mid-section with big shirts and tankinis.

What happened was very unexpected.






I just didn’t care anymore.






I finally accepted my body, scars and all, for what it was– Mine. The months of recovery were tough and I was told that without my spleen, I would be sick all of the time. I would also never attain the same level of fitness ever again. They had stitched me up so tight that I walked like a hunch-back and just pushing myself up out of bed left me wincing and breathless. But it is true that time heals. Little by little I began to move, sitting upright on my spin bike and going for long walks. I also vowed that my new life was going to be filled with love and smiles. Doing only the things that brought me joy and spending time with people that truly loved and supported me.


Like the tumor, I removed everything toxic from my life.

I now give my permission to just be myself. Instead of doing, pushing, and forcing – I feel. I have also learned to love my scars. They represent lessons and growth. I do not think I would be physically or emotionally where I am now if it were not for my illness and the surgery. I am grateful for every ugly and uncomfortable moment, for every mean word spoken in my direction, and every physical and emotional ache, for they encouraged me to embrace my inner strength, to rise up and own ME, my true self that loves all of me – every flaw, every scar.

The truth is, we all have scars. Your scars are badges of honor. A reminder that you faced a challenge, walked through the fire, fought your demons, was presented with lessons and survived.

You are your own hero and it is up to you to create your own happily ever after!


Fighting Fear ~ Building Confidence with Passion and Action!

New Year’s 1996, I moved up to Marin to be a Taebo instructor. I was thrilled that I was to be one of only 3 Taebo instructors outside of Billy Blank’s studio in Hollywood. I was mentored by Will Yun Lee.. yeah that guy from Wolverine. I had only been doing Taebo for 3 months and I immediately knew I didn’t want to be just another aerobics instructor. I wanted to really know the punches and kicks that I would be teaching. I wanted to be like Will. He was incredibly confident, super skilled, and just looked bad ass… who wouldn’t want to be like him? I trained in a garage-turned-gym for 3 months straight. Hours and hours everyday – kicking, kicking, kicking, and punching. I had a goal and knew I was going to be introducing Taebo to the Bay Area. Oh, did I mention, I had never done martial arts, taught anything in my life, and was PAINFULLY shy. Like, barely-look-you-in-the-eye, shy?

I rehearsed that first class probably 30-40 times and was still a nervous wreck. I had to throw up twice before even entering the group exercise room. I stumble up to the front of the class and looked out at the 60+ people and could barely introduce myself. I was shaking so much that when I got in to my fighting stance to begin demonstrating the punches, my back ankle was shaking uncontrollably. I was terrified, and to make matters worse when I began to explain the stance and punching techniques, my voice would crack. Did I want to run and hide and never be seen in that gym again? – For sure I did. But instead, I raised my voice, because I noticed that when I raised my voice it would not crack. I also started demonstrating the movements with much more emphasis – crazy big and powerful, to hide the fact that I was shaking. After that, it was like an out of body experience. I shouted like a drill sergeant, ran around the room getting in people’s faces. Kicked higher than I ever thought possible and punched so hard I probably could have knocked someone out. I am sure I made mistakes, but nobody noticed and after class people just raved about my teaching and how it was the best class they had ever taken! I was on a high – I wish I could say for days, but I had to teach my second class the next morning, 14 hours later. And the throwing up/voice cracking/body shaking-to-drill sergeant routine started all over again. And that routine lasted 12 classes a week for 6 months until I finally wasn’t panic-stricken. So what kept me coming back day after day, class after class? Passion. Passion for exercise and sharing with others.
20 years later, I have taught over 10,000 classes – from cardio kickbox to pilates. I have trained clients in their homes, offices and abroad, and lead fitness retreats through my company SweatPlayLive. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had decided, way back then, that teaching that first class was just too scary. It is one of those “sliding door” moments. I chose to face my fear and it has brought me here to you, with Sweat Play Live and also Move Your Asana®. On Saturday, that decision is taking me Rancho La Puerta, the #1 Fitness Spa in the world, to guest instruct for the week; and then to Portugal to train on a road cycling trip.
You have heard it before – “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” YOUR desire HAS to be stronger than your fear. My desire to be a Taebo instructor outweighed my fear of failure, even if just barely. It was enough for me to train and endure that first class. Nobody is born with confidence. Everyone you see exuding mass confidence in every situation practiced it until it became a habit. Until that habit became part of who they are. So fake it until you become it! Even Beyonce says she has to turn into Sasha Fierce to get herself onstage. When you feel fear – TAKE ACTION! It is the first step towards building confidence – “Action kills Fear.” Maybe at first you too will need to “pretend” to be confident, strong, and sure of yourself.

By practicing confidence you make it a habit and as we all know, practice makes permanent!

The Busy Epidemic + A quick exercise to break the cycle.

I have a confession to make: I used to feel like a wasn’t good enough.

Not because I didn’t have a certain job, or owned houses and cars, etc. But because I wasn’t as busy as everyone else in my community. Oh, I started out busy. There was a time when I was personal training clients 3-4 hours a day, teaching 2-3 fitness classes, being a dedicated yogi practicing 3-5 classes a week, and also training for mountain bike stage races which entailed being on my bike 20+ hours a week. AND then I decided to start a granola company. GOGO Granola consumed every second of my “free time.” Baking from 7pm-1am and then bagging, labeling, and mailing granola during every spare second of every day of every week. The decision to support my husband during his father’s battle with the late stages of cancer took us to Australia and away from this “crazy busy” lifestyle. When we returned to the states, I did not feel drawn to continue building my granola “empire”. I resumed my personal training and teaching schedule, but a funny thing happened. I started telling myself that I was LAZY when I would sit and read a book, or watch TV at night. I had become so used to multi-tasking and filling my days with doing doing doing that any down-time left me feeling guilt and even shame.

I watched my clients and friends going non-stop, staying busy – “doing it all.” Working 8+ hour days, shuttling kids from one activity to another and volunteering in the classrooms and at church functions, cooking dinners every night, and still finding time to hit the gym – They were my heroes. So of course I was lazy in comparison… Or at least that was the the story I told myself. While it looked like my peers were thriving with their busy schedules, after closer inspection (and chats while they were driving their kids from lacrosse to gymnastics and then off to a client meeting) my heroes were actually “at the end of their ropes” and barely keeping it together. Clearly a big lesson here is: Stop comparing yourself to others.

People fall into 3 categories – Some of us really do love being busy and wear it like a badge of honor. And others need to keep busy so there is no time to deal with big-scary, often painful issues. But the majority of people I talk to are just caught up in the hustle of work-life and family-life; trying to keep their heads above water, and are purely existing instead of creating – Instead of truly LIVING.

I believe a work/life “balance” does exist, but it looks different to everyone (another reason to stop comparing.) That picture of balance is ever-evolving and changes daily with varying degrees of success. That is A-OK as long as you can clearly define what success is to you!

We can get so caught up with doing that we forget that being, feeling, and experiencing are really what life is about. Here is a super quick exercise to feel successful every day.

Get clear on your definition of success – What does your successful day look like?
Think in terms of laying a foundation for success. What are the building blocks that help you perform your best physically, mentally and emotionally during a typical day?

Example, I need to:
Get 8 hours of sleep. Yes, I can survive with 6, but if I am being completely honest, I feel like crap. I do think getting sleep can absolutely change your life, but don’t just take my word for it, read what Arianna Huffington says about it in the Sleep Revolution

Exercise 1 hour. Sometimes I get a lot more (or a little less) but if I do not move everyday, it 100% effects my mood.


Get outside. From a very young age I knew that I could not be cramped indoors. If I am not teaching outside, I make a point of getting outdoors and breathing fresh air for at least 20-30 minutes. This is where having dogs is great! Even if I am not able to exercise outside during the day, I love taking my girls for their evening walks. I use this time as a moving meditation and try to focus on my breath – breathing slowly in and out through my nose.



Creativity breaks. I will admit that this is IMG_6289a new one for me. I recently began drawing again. It started with an adult *coloring book… Yeah, you heard me right. (Check out the beautiful books by Johanna Basford.) I found that as I colored, I focused on my breath and tuned everything else out. Sounds a little like meditating right? It was for me, and that segued into drawing.

*I can hear some of you right now saying, “Color? I barely have time to make my kid’s lunches in the morning.” This is just what works for me. You might have very different success-building blocks up your sleeve :)


*There are plenty of other things that I will do during my week but these are the foundation or building blocks for my “successful day.”




So what are your successful day “must do’s”?
Do you make them a priority?
If not, why and what can you give up so that you can truly be living your best life?

Is it doing 3 sun-salutations before sunrise? Drinking 3 liters of water? Gardening or meditating for 20 minutes a day? Get it out of your head – write it down!

So now that you have pinpointed exactly what you need to do to kick ass everyday, you must DO them! 

Knowing your daily priorities will set you up for success – so the next time you get asked to volunteer at another church potluck or community fundraiser, as wonderful as these events may be, you can make a conscious decision.
Ask yourself:
Will losing 2 hours of sleep, or feeling anxious and frazzled, or missing the 30 minutes reading to your kids, be adding to the quality of your life?

The Busy Epidemic does not have to be a death sentence. Remember that BUSY does not equal SUCCESSFUL. I need to remember that busy does not equate to “good enough.” Each of us is responsible for creating our own reality.

CHOOSE activities that ENERGIZE and CHARGE YOU UP, then see how your life truly begins to reflect your definition of SUCCESS!

Take Action On Your Dream Life!

Have you ever sat down and really thought about what you want your life to look like?
When you were little I bet you had some fun dreams – where you dancing in the Nut Cracker, or jumping out of airplanes putting out forest fires?

When I was 5, I had typical little-girl dreams – I wanted to be a veterinarian, marry my high school sweet heart (because 18 seemed super old already) and have boy, then a girl. A scary incident with my cat at age 7 brought my veterinary career to a screeching halt – I just couldn’t handle being around any injured animal without falling on the ground and sobbing uncontrollably.. A trait that that I will never out-grow. In high school I realized that I could not have a regular 9-5 job and also keep my sanity, and by my early 20’s I just knew deep in my heart that kids were not a part of my program. Things change. Values change. Life throws us punches. We can either bob and weave, or stay pinned up against the ropes. Our relationship, work, and life situations all lead to growth… or struggle,  if you choose to ignore the lessons.

So, I ask again, when was the last time you sat down and evaluated your life? Does it look and feel like the life of your dreams? If the answer is no, then grab your journal or a piece of paper and write this down:

This is a bigger picture snapshot of your life. Don’t hold back. This is not your BFF’s dream or your partner’s dream… This is YOUR dream, so go big!

From the moment you wake up till the moment you fall asleep.
This is a super fun exercise. I did this about 4 years ago and now my perfect day is everyday! Not kidding.

Did you read this and say to yourself, “I’ll do it tomorrow?”
This is where people hesitate. Taking the action. If you want to live in a cabin on a lake, start looking up locations and even real estate properties. It doesn’t mean you are going to go out buy something tomorrow, but it gets the juices flowing and creates excitement. Want to start a vegan handbag line? Start sketching designs or taking sewing classes. It can be small steps, but take the steps – TAKE ACTION!

Because there WILL be obstacles and challenges. Maybe your kids are still in middle school and flying off a lake-front cabin is not realistic. Could you spend the summers there until the kids go off to college? Your community college sewing class is only offered during your night shift. Can you borrow a sewing machine from a friend and take online classes?

Have a plan of attack!

This dreaming exercise is so much fun, but LIVING YOUR DREAM –  IS   –  THE  –  BEST!